With a wonderful new job, my responsibilities here have gone woefully neglected as I have been learning as much as I could about my job.
Ancestry and 23AndMe have been updating their information on the regular, changing constantly the mix of heritage/ancestry that people have stored within their DNA.
For myself, I have learned of my Paternal heritage and have now turned my face towards that of finding out for certain who my maternal grandfather is. It has turned out to be a very daunting task.
Today, through research of narrowing the field of surnames in my long list, I was able to help a distant cousin (9th cousin to be exact) confirm who his biological father was. It feels great, I am not even going to lie.
However, I am now very determined to learn who the person was that fathered my mother. At this point, I do not expect him or any siblings to be alive, but I am hoping for some distant cousins at least.
I will never forget the day that I stared at the computer screen, looking for there to be a match in Spain, because that would mean that I was my grandfather's child. Alas, that was not the case.
I am so frustrated and wishing that there was a way I could turn the hands of time back and get a DNA test done on a couple of deceased relatives!
Tonight, I spent several hours going through the stacks, making notes as I went. That is when I noticed that one of my aunts and I share a relative that the other maternal aunt and I do not share. I pulled up a comparison and I discovered that we have 70 relatives that are not shared by my other aunt! The relation between me and these relatives is significantly closer than to her. I cross checked myself several times. There is a connection on my maternal side only to this one aunt. (We will call her La). My sister has not tested on this particular site, so I will wait for the Easter sales to pop up and get a test in the mail to her so that I can see if we triangulate at all. If all 3 of us match, and these 70 people still do not match my one aunt, I don't know what this will mean, except that it is a tiny flicker of light to keep me going.
My sister and I had a conversation the other day and she told me that she wished that this were all cut and dried so that we did not have to go through all of this! I could not agree more.
For all of you who are out there, still searching for your lost people, know that you are not alone.
Today is St. Joseph's day if you are Catholic, the patron saint of Family, among other things and I sent a small request to him and St. Anthony to help me find my lost people.
Have a wonderful day and DON'T GIVE UP!
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